Resist the urge to sàlàyé
Written by Adedayo Ademokoya
Everyday is a blank canvas which offers you opportunities to paint your fate with excitement, joy, forlorn, love, boredom. Everything you choose—you get. As good as you might want to make your day, there are still people who won’t be satisfied with what you do or how you do them.
They are just demons in human forms, wolves in sheep’s clothings ready to kill any and every of your positive vibes. They are the ones who will slowly say, “e be things” when you make a mistake as if they are saints.
A friend posted something on her Facebook timeline a couple of years ago; it read, “the street is electrical, anybody can shock you.” I learned a great lesson from that post. It is resisting the urge to be stunned by people’s behaviour.
People change. We all change but the thing is; don’t bad mouth a person because you are envious of their success. If you can’t say something nice just keep shut. When you are at the receiving end, mafo because you owe nobody explanations of who you are (it doesn’t mean that you should lead an unaccountable life).
There are two seasons you pass through in life, people are there to castigate every move, just be ready.
- Living your life: It is believed that the earth rotates—with the good & bad. When life deals you with the bad, you see the gbèborúns making jest of you. It’s not time to play their cards, focus on yourself. When things go well with you, they will be like is he/she the only one? You are not responsible for people’s opinion of you. Leave them and move on. Being mysterious does it.
- Living your pain: The aforementioned point bears semblance with this but it is different. This comes as the consequences of your actions. When you are undergoing the pain or whatsoever that might have caused the pain, endeavour to be yourself as you journey on to healing. If cry hungry you, abeg cry. No form King Kong because you wan make dem see say you strong. Unku/Anti, you no be kọnkéré o. Express yourself in ways sensible to you alone. Lead your life to a point where people’s sarcasms will not have effect on you anymore. Be authentic in dealing with your pain & remember, you owe nobody any explanation for your life.
Some people are not just satisfied with what you do. I call them the bad belles. They are everywhere like the cloud. Whenever you come across such people, do yourself a favour please —gerraut of their sight & resist the urge to sàlàyé.
Note: Sàlàyé is a Yoruba word. In this context, it literally means to explain
Written By Adedayo Ademokoya
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