12 HELPFUL TIPS ON GETTING YOUR CRUSH TO LOVE YOU
12 HELPFUL TIPS ON GETTING YOUR CRUSH TO LOVE YOU
How do you navigate a situation with someone you’re just crushing on?
Sure, you want to embody some totally chill girl/guy energy like, “Oh, no, I totally don’t care that you left me on read for two hours,” but at the same time, you also want to make it known that you’d like to eat pizza with them.
To help, on Woven Relationship, we gathered relevant informations from seven experts who provided some super not so obvious 12 helpful tips on ways to get your crush to like you.
1. Ask them to do you a small favor
If they perform a minor act of service for you, they will unconsciously associate feelings of approval and positivity with you, says Mario Sinelmann, CEO and Dating Coach at Up Your Dating Game. “It’s sneaky but harmless.” Don’t make them stand in line and fight for the last KFC chicken, but it’d be okay to ask them to read over an important email you have to send to your boss.
2. Laugh at their jokes
“The more we laugh with someone, the more we are drawn to them,” says Wyatt Fisher, PsyD, licensed psychologist and host of marriage podcast, Marriage Steps.
3. Share your flaws and imperfections
Okay, you don’t have to mention that one time you threw up from eating too many yam, but you can totally talk about that weird dimple that pops up when you smile. Sharing your flaws and imperfections makes people feel humble and safe, says Fisher, “which will encourage them to open up more about their shortcomings, which breeds emotional intimacy.”
4. Be present on “Instagram”
“Post quirky photos of your outings or hobbies. To capture your crush’s attention, devote some of your Stories to the things—activities, music, or memes—they love,” says Celia Schweyer, dating expert at Dating Relationships Advice. “Live and feature your authentic self, while adding a few posts that tell them you totally get their passion.”
5. Watch a scary movie with them
Adrenaline sometimes = attraction. “Putting your crush in fear-enhancing situations has the potential to make them like you because they attribute their adrenaline rush and increased heart rate to you, rather than the situation,” says Adina Mahalli, relationship expert at Maple Holistics.
6. Carry a warm drink in your hand
“According to research, people tend to view those around them with more warmth when they have a hot drink in their hand,” says Mahalli. Oh, and avoid colds drink too if you really want to play this up.
7. Mimic what your crush is doing
It’s called the Chameleon effect. “When you mimic someone’s behavior, they think more favorably of you. It creates a connection,” says licensed sex therapist Cheryl Cyr. You see someone smile, you smile. They rub their face, you rub your face. They move their hair, you move your hair. “Follow it up with eye contact to seal the deal,” says Cyr.
8. Wear the same colors they do
“Notice what color clothes they wear most often, and then add some of those colors to your wardrobe,” says Cyr. Pro Tip: Your crush is totally going to notice that you’re wearing the colors they’re attracted to.
9. Pull tricks on them
No need to be mean or send them to the hospital with a broken arm, but why not scare them every time they walk into your apt? Totally fair game. “This is a good way to stoke a sense of mystery and curiosity,” says Brooke Sprowl, LCSW, clinical director at My LA Therapy.
10. Find unusual similarities.
“We are attracted to people we perceive as similar to ourselves, and research suggests that attraction will increase if we perceive our commonalities are rare or unusual,” says Madeleine Mason Roantree, dating coach at The Vida Consultancy. So yeah, it’s definately a big deal if your parents went to the same high school or you’re both Scorpios.
11. Don’t be afraid to get a lil touchy-feely
“The occasional subtle touch enhances our feelings toward each other, whether it be picking up an imaginary hair off a shoulder or a gentle pat on the arm as you laugh at a joke,” says Roantree.
12. Spend lots of time with them
This may be the more obvious one of the mix, but quality time is everything. I mean, how are you going to get to know someone unless you spend time with them? It’s a thing called “The mere exposure effect” and it “refers to the fact that simply being around someone often and long enough will increase their liking of you,” says Roantree.
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