I’ve been with my boyfriend for more than four years. In the beginning of our relationship, he would always ask me out on dates, and every once in a while, he would buy me flowers. Lately, I feel like I always initiate any plans to go out together and he never does anything romantic for me. What should I do if I want my man to bring his sexy back?
Sounds like your boy is on cruise control right now. Maybe throwing some fuel to the fire and sparking up your own life will inhibit positive changes from him. Focus more of your attention on your favorite hobby, passion, talent, secret plan of world take over, salsa class, lo que sea. Whatever it is, get inspired. Our creative spirit takes a huge blow when we don’t feel good about ourselves. Don’t get stuck in that “he doesn’t do this, he doesn’t do that” feeling sorry about yourself stuff. Call him a little less—make him seek you. Get busy being busy with things that will help improve yourself as a person, but don’t do it for him, do it for yourself.
Which leads me to a deeper discussion on the subject. If you have tried to spice up your own life and don’t see your macho stepping up to the plate, then maybe you need to sit down and have a real conversation with him on whether or not his heart is still in the right place. Because if it isn’t, there is no reason to force something that is no longer there. Relationships, like many other things in life have cycles, and if you feel you are entering a cycle of monotony and boredom, then it is time to let go. If one person is committed to the relationship more than the other, than it will eventually not work out. Mima, you deserve the best and your time is precious.