FOOD FOR THOUGHT – KNOW YOU ALWAYS HAVE CHOICES


Do you know the saying “wherever you go, there you are”?  Even
though you always take yourself wherever you go you do have a choice of who
you’ll be when you get there.  Here’s something to think about.  If
you don’t realize you are doing exactly what you want to be doing in each
moment or you would be doing something else, then you are not being honest with
yourself.  
You may think you don’t want to work where you
work or be in the relationship you’re in etc., but if that were really true you
would be doing something to change the situation.  There is always another
choice if you want to look for it.  The reality is it’s easier to have
things remain the same.  Ouch!
Your brain is always processing information and
making choices sub-consciously.  Like which hand to use to pick something
up or which way to turn.  You use the same process to decide how to spend
your time.  Change the criteria your brain uses to make decisions and
you’ll change the choices you make.  Your personal manifesto and the plan
you create from your goals will give your brain the input it needs to change
your processing criteria.

What are the criteria you use to make your
choices?  Have you ever thought about it before?  It goes back to
looking at who you see yourself as and what you told yourself about your life
up until this point.  Once you have that information, you can look at what
still is true and work towards what you want to achieve.  Eliminate or
replace everything else.   It’s like spring-cleaning your living
space and then going up into the attic and going through all the stuff you
didn’t even remember you had.  Some of the stuff you realize you want to
bring out and use.  Other things you throw away because you don’t want
them anymore.  Now do the same springcleaning with your mind.  
Action Step: Spring
Clean your Mind
One area I did a major spring-cleaning in a few
years ago was my image of my worthiness as a friend.  When I went up into
the attic of my brain, the stuff I found there was really old.  I had been
judging myself by criteria a child had set up! 
How ridiculous is that?  
So I looked at every piece of information and
where it started. Does it fit who I am today or is this not true about
me?  What I noticed was that I had taken the facts of my life and came to
some erroneous conclusions.   The facts were that I only had one
friend at a time when I was young, I was ill a lot as a child and missed
school, and because I grew up moving quite often, I was always the new
kid.  You get the picture.  
I took these facts and somehow decided I wasn’t
meant to have friends, I wasn’t worthy of people liking me, and it didn’t pay
to have friends anyway because I was always moving.  So for the next 20
years or so, I lived with this as my criteria I filtered everything through to
make decisions about friendship.  
There were some good things I uncovered in the
attic.  People thought I was funny and fun to be around.  I had told
myself they just felt sorry for me.  When I looked at this, I knew it
wasn’t true.  So I brought out the fun and funny part of me.  I also
found I had buried the fact that people thought I was interesting and they
enjoyed talking to me and getting my advice.  I had told myself they were
humoring me.  So I dusted that off and brought it out.  
When I finished my spring–cleaning, I had
released a lot of old misinformation about myself.  I swept out the attic
and took the parts I liked and brought them downstairs to be a part of who I
was.  Everything else I threw away.  That allowed me to be a good
friend and let people into my life.  
I now remembered the truth about me.  I am funny and fun to
be with.  I am interesting and people like spending time with me. 
This spring-cleaning cleared the path for me to develop some great and long lasting
friendships.  I no longer was operating with outdated criteria for
deciding who I am.
You can use this process to redefine any area of
your life that isn’t at the level you would like it to be.  You can
actually picture yourself going up into your attic and looking at any aspect of
your life.  When you do this, all your core beliefs about this part of
yourself will become clear.
Action Step: Study Success
Study other successful people and see what
choices they made to get where they are today.  Read at least one biography
of a successful person each month for the inside scoop on how someone else
achieved greatness.   Pay attention to the choices they had in their
life and how they decided which path to take.  As you read and gain more
knowledge, think about what you would do to get to the same place even faster.
One of the choices I would recommend you make is
to have balance in your life.  It makes all of your other choices
clearer.  Balance is what makes your life work.  You can live with
your life severely out of alignment, but you won’t be happy.  Your
successes will seem strangely unfulfilling, and you won’t know why.  It’s
totally up to you what you choose to have in your life.  
For example, some people feel that public
service is important.  You may not ever want to run for any office. 
You may love to do volunteer work, other people write checks.  Some people
are very involved in church activities, others just show up for the
service.  It’s up to you to decide what you spend time on in your life and
how you do it.  
No one else can tell you what you should or shouldn’t be important
to you.  Balance is when your life includes just the elements it takes to
make you truly happy.  
The first clue is that it usually requires some
kind of boundaries on work time so you have time for a personal life. There is
a great exercise for balance I’ve found very effective.  It’s in chapter 5
of Denis Waitley’s book “Seeds of Greatness”. 
By Lynn Pierce
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